Tuesday, May 26, 2009

My inspiration

It has not been so good for Herrad in the last few weeks. Today was the first day in a while she woke just calling out in pain and not having a big cry. I have learned to ask if it is anything specific that I can help with or is it just MS. Just MS has been the answer. Just her body being slowly destroyed and her world limited to a bedroom. I stroke the bits that she can still feel and tell her that I love her. Fetch her some weed and then enlist the help of the dogs. The sunshine that has been streaming in from the window this month was replaced by a day best described in the words of my late Scottish granny; "Dreech an' druchit"(the Scots language has many ways to describe rain!). But today after the massage and pills Herrad opened up her computer- straight to her blog- and comments came flooding in bringing such sunshine into the day.
I am so glad people like Herrad. The things people say are so generous but I truly believe she deserves every compliment. I see her every day- good bad and indifferent and I see her being grumpy and sometimes she can be a down right grouch but she is never less than wonderful. She is always so very loving to me.
Some people commenting have religious views that colour their understanding and language, we may not share their beliefs but the kind sentiments show them to be such good sweet people. I like to be reminded that what ever the outside appearance of separation we are all one people and hold more in common than divides us. Herrad has always helped me to think kindly about people and not to loose my self in anger. I am so glad that other people see just how well she is handling this totally unacceptable situation just as she has gone through much in her life. Nothing can diminish her dignity. She is my inspiration and I am glad that she can share her brilliance with so many others. Without her blog she would be so lonely and making friends has always been her thing. I am so grateful to everyone in the blogosphere who helps me care for my darling. Love to you all.

10 comments:

Erin said...

Hi Richie,
Stop by my blog to get your award!
Take Care,
Erin

Rain said...

Hi Richie! Nice to meet you. I get a lot of courage when I read Herrad's words and see the photos. She spreads a lot of happiness out there believe me! You are a wonderful man and you both are lucky to have found each other. Best to you!

Cranky said...

Richie - your wife is very inspiring to me, too. You are as well.

Cathy said...

You both inspire me. We all have bad days and honestly when I do I know which blogs I want to read to get me thru it.

Chekoala said...

Hi Richie
The nourishing and flourishing community and the warmth you and Herrad nurture is quite a precious thing.
If only 'celebrity' could be turned into a positive word that means people who set a great example, then the tabloid 'Who Weekly's' and their ilk would have you two all over their covers every week ...

ta muchly to you both
(and 3 cheers for the invention of the internet - how brilliant is that?)

awb said...

Thanks to both of you for sharing your life with us Richie, it's greatly appreciated, and looked forward to by my wife and me.

Andy

steve said...

BR and i will do whatever we can to help the both of you. As if MS weren't enough, the damned pressure sores waltz in and crap all over what's left.

I want to be better. I want to be able to wake up every two hours in the middle of the night with a Disney temperament and tend to BR. It just isn't me. But if not me, who?

So we roll and we tug and we fuss and we shout and we wipe and we cry and we hug and we laugh and we ... well, you get the point.

FrankandMary said...

You are inspiring as well, Richie, but I don't think I could really convince you of that, so I shall not try.

Anyone is going to think it all sucks at times, anyone would sometimes eat all the strawberries ;-0, but you 2 are beautiful in all the inner ways it counts. ~Mary

Amelia said...

Hi Richie,
I have said it before & I will keep saying it - you are both such an inspiration to such a lot of people. You both keep each other going and the fact that you both share that with us all is amazing.
Just keep doing what you are doing and we will all be here to help you along the way.
Much love & hugs
to you both
Amelia XxXxX

Richie said...

thanks for all the nice things you all have written about us- I do need a bit of an ego boost every now and then